Bottom of Form Healing after Betrayal – Is it Possible? Betrayal is a breaking of trust and goodwill in a relationship that can take a long time to heal from and can leave us changed forever.  It has broken marriages, ended long term friendships and created rifts in families that can span generations.  It can happen suddenly and leave us feeling shocked, as in the case of an exposed affair. Or it can happen over time, involving a series of lies or indiscretions that deteriorate trust and respect. Whether it’s our good friend, partner, work colleague, sibling or parent, many of us have experienced the specific wounding that is felt from betrayal.  How do we get betrayed?  Our betrayal could be caused through a broken promise, ...

New U$5 Bank Note: Careful where you point that thing! A trusted County Notary in the USA sent me this advice in a recent email:  “Thomas McFadden says that the new FIVE DOLLAR BILL is printed using HIGHLY Magnetic Ink and circulated to Reduce Your Physical Strength.  Take an older FIVE DOLLAR BILL and hold it your stronger arm/hand and hold it straight-out in front of you and have someone push down on your hand - and see how much effort is required to push your hand down,,, then do the same thing with a NEW FIVE DOLLAR BILL and you will see that your strength is being drained from you,,, and it will be easier for you to lower your hand yourself....  Do not carry them around - in your front pocket.  Seriously, do NOT carry the new ...

Do you have harmonious relationships with all of your close family members and are you aware how this can affect your heart and energy on a daily basis?  People who I looked after that had close family relationships, laughing and joking with their loved ones in hospital would often be full of life and vitality just minutes before they went to bed for the last time, smiling and passing away in their sleep. This was incredible to witness and always gave me hope that death could be a potentially pleasant experience. After all, we all get to die one day - it is only a question of how.  One of the biggest issues that came up repeatedly during my time as a nurse that affected heart health and energy was unresolved family relationships.  ...

Muster the nerve!             - How to live with a passion for excellence! It has been said that a passion for excellence carries a price. Simply put, that means: The adventure of excellence is not for the faint of heart. Excellence is a personal commitment. (for more on commitment, click here.) Whether you're looking at a billion-dollar corporation or a three-person accounting department, you see that excellence is achieved by people who muster up the nerve (and the passion) to step out in spite of doubt or fear or job limitations. They don't hide behind office doors, committees, memos, or layers of staff; they understand that stepping out and stepping forward is the fair bargain they make for extraordinary results. How can ...

My son Noah calls me every day as he leaves work to sort of download the day, get things off his chest, tell me about work problems, talk things over.  The salient part of that experience for me is to see how important it is to him that he does a good job.  He really cares about that.  To him, his job is more than just work, it is a vital part of his very existence and to not do it well is anathema to him! Where did that come from?  He has often been asked why he understands so much about management, since he is a chef--and some of them are much more cooking oriented than management oriented.  He tells them that he grew up watching his mom run a business, watching his dad work really hard as a salesman, watching his grandparents work r...

Deciding moments come along many times in our lives, and each one gives us an opportunity to turn one way or another--which then informs and shapes our lives from that moment on. It fascinates me to see people on TV in what are called Reality Shows. I think part of the public's addiction to those is it gives us a window to observe how people deal with those moments--and the consequences they bring. Last night I watched a woman who had come across as a fighter, a resilient contender just give up and walk away when she could have turned around and shown us another part of herself. Maybe she had more going on in her life than we could see--and maybe she really is a "Quitter" as she was called on the show. I know there have been times in ...

As I am in my early 60s, it makes sense that I would see clients at least up to my age and sometimes a little older.  I am very inspired when someone who is well-seasoned in life comes to see me to make a major shift in how he/she sees things and manages his/her life. I watch my mother at 86 change sometimes daily.  She has one of those indomitable spirits--I'm sure this is where I got, if not the phrase, at least the meaning of something I say quite often, "I will not be daunted!"  My mom is so willing to look at things in new ways, take in new ideas, be flexible.  And she is also really good at knowing what does and doesn't work for her--and once she sees that, she sticks to it!  An admirable quality. One of the great things abou...

I have determined that any woman in the business world would benefit from some form of coaching.  In over twenty-six years of working with mostly women, I have found there are key reasons why seeking outside help is so beneficial.  Here are the main ones: 10.  Many businesswomen are addicted to being right. What this really means is that they are afraid they will be “wrong”--and someone will find out about it.  They second guess themselves, worry over decisions, hesitate to make decisions and rely on too much feedback from others.  How does coaching help?  It allows you to get an objective view of situations, and have a sounding board that is totally removed from your daily routine.  By broadening your perspective, you begin to see t...

I ironed my pillowcases today.  They were probably fine not ironed, I just wanted to do it.  I bought new sheets and a new spread for my bed recently and now the pillows show more, and I wanted them to be smooth and lovely. Seems sort of inconsequential to write about this, but it is a bigger subject than pillowcases.  I am living the life of a homemaker, and the person I am lovingly, contentedly making a home for is....MYSELF! When I had the "big crisis" a couple of years ago and changed my life drastically, I changed how I live on a daily basis.  I've written before about re-learning to do my own laundry, having my housekeeper only come on half day every other week, taking care of the things I used to delegate to others.  I raised ...

I had drinks with Charlie Rose last night.  I didn't even remember it until I was on the floor doing my Pilates while last night's taping of his nightly interview show was playing and I looked up and saw his face and it was exactly the same expression I saw in my dream. I don't know exactly what my attraction to him is, but I tape his shows every week night and many times go to sleep watching them.  And when I wake up at 5:30 am and don't want to stay awake, I find one of his shows with men talking and it lulls me back to sleep. Charlie is a comfort to me.  He is also inspiring to me.  He does such extensive research, is so apparently knowledgeable about the topics his guests talk about, that I am in awe of the time and energy it ta...