Published On: Apr 29, 2010
Last updated on:: Apr 29, 2010
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To be trapped by anything can make one feel as if they are imprisoned
in a small space with no air to breathe.
Unlike the Jeanie trapped in a bottle for centuries until someone
happened to find this bottle and magically rub it to life. You are not
that lucky!
Unfortunately there is no Prince Charming out there that will find you
and magically rub you until you are free.
You are the only one that can escape the prison of low self-esteem!
Your self-esteem is up to you and only you.
You can waste days upon days…years upon years waiting and hoping for
that someone to come and make your self-esteem higher. It will never
happen. You will have lived life lonely, angry, hidden and trapped.
My advice to you is to begin with who you see every time you look in
the mirror. That is the only magical wand that will work on YOU!
It is your responsibility to accept you! If you cannot accept you, how
can you possibly expect anyone else to accept you.
So many people wander why they fail over and over again in
relationships. Constantly looking for answers to what is wrong with them
and why they keep picking losers.
Well….as I have said….look in the mirror.
If you do not learn to love yourself for the Gift that you are…you
will not be able to see how anyone else can love you. You will
constantly be thinking that your thoughts about you… are also their
thoughts about you. This way of thinking is where trying to change the
other partner begins. Another huge mistake in relationships.
Massive confusions take over and before you know it every little thing
becomes an argument.
Your insecurities begin to grow because you know that he cannot love
you… because you do not love you.
Then the relationship escalates into the emotional traps. These traps
are all seeded from your inability to love who you are and accept your
uniqueness as an individual.
You start to feel threatened by other women….take little or no care
about how you look…you eat more….drink more…cry more….you feel jealous
of other couples relationships….avoid romantic movies…avoid going to
places where there are people you do not know….you will even stoop as
low as spying on your partner…checking his/her mail…text messages ect.
All of this can turn into a horrible world of destruction….all
because you will not accept and be happy with who you are. Your partner
is in total and absolute confusion as to what is going on. Some partners
do try and help to no avail…then become distant or even leave out of
pure frustration and a feeling of failure.
A persons self-acceptance is the key to a high self-esteem,
self-confidence, self-worth and internal happiness.
If I were to tell you that a necklace would bring you happiness if you
wore it every day for the rest of your life…would you ever take it off?
Would you not wear it and cherish it?
So then why is it so hard to just accept who you are right now and look
toward bettering that person because it feels good. When you have a
healthy self-esteem you better yourself because it feels good and it is a
healthy goal. When you have a low self-esteem…you try to better
yourself before you even love and accept yourself and that is where you
fail. That is why you find yourself constantly feeling like it will
never work.
You are always going to be trapped in that bottle floating endlessly
through your life time if you do not just… like who you are right now
and accept all of your differences as being a good thing.
You are your own best friend.
You are who you should depend on and count on.
It is you who can open that bottle and let yourself be free of low
self-esteem!
~D~
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“Why compare yourself with others? No one
in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.”
“To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.”